There are different kinds of personalities in the world. Some of us are planners, some spontaneous, and some kind of go with the flow depending on the situation. I am definitely the former. I like to have a plan for everything. My husband is mister spontaneity. We are what you might consider…polar opposites!
A few weeks ago, while I was still trying to figure out how to navigate WordPress, my daughter came home for a visit. I showed her the background picture I’d chosen (which took me forever to get centered the way I wanted it), the title and tagline I’d thought about for weeks, and the “About Me” section I’d written. That was all I had done so I had not published it yet. I wanted to have the page looking “just so” before putting it out there for the world to see. My daughter said it was cool that I was writing a blog, and then she said, “Pop should write a blog, he likes to write and he’s funny.” A couple of days later I mentioned it to him and…what do you think? After I showed him WordPress, within an hour, he had his first post published! He just dived right in, picked a picture, picked a title, and wrote his first post. No thinking, just blindly jumped in, linked it to Facebook, and Voila! He was a “published writer” with a ton of likes and comments within an hour of posting. I thought about blogging for a couple of years… and he thought about it for a minute. Polar opposites!
They say “opposites attract” and I’ve wondered about this. My desire to plan things, make lists, be meticulous about the details of certain things, is completely different from his last minute decisions to do this, that, or the other. And it drives me nuts! Sometimes. At other times, I’ve been glad that we’ve delved in and done something unexpected. It can be thrilling to just go for it and not know what the outcome might be. We’ve recently been offered the opportunity to teach ballroom classes at someone’s dance studio. Shortly after, I had to drive ten hours home to Chicago (the Air Force brought us to Arkansas where we currently live) and I had to help take care of getting my GrandMama moved. I was gone for over a week. When I got back I found that my hubby and Lisa (dance studio owner) had decided to just go for it and post on Facebook that we were teaching lessons…with only about a week’s notice! That’s right, he wanted to just dive right in and do it. That’s mister spontaneous for you. And even though we only had one couple show up the first night, I was actually glad we did it! Not only did we have fun with the couple but THEY were bouncing ideas off of us to take us in a direction I hadn’t even thought of! They were a great couple and it turned out to be a great time. Fancy that. No planning, just doing it, and it turned out fine for us.
I could go on incessantly with example after example of our opposing natures but I’m sure you get the point. I believe the phrase “opposites attract” comes from the scientific law of two opposite sides of magnets being attracted to one another. My hubby and I have “opposing” personalities, and although we drive each other crazy at times because of it, overall we compliment each other. I mean, if he were a planner like me, we’d never have any fun. And if I were spontaneous like him, we’d be broke. I like to paint and I’ve found that some of the prettiest color combinations are compliments on the color wheel. So hopefully…we look good together too. 😉